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For most people, life is a roller coaster of satisfaction and challenge. And in the midst of days filled with the latter, the social media chronicles of someone’s seemingly perfect life can set the teeth on edge. But should seeing those adventures from afar generate feelings of envy and self-loathing?
No, argues a piece written in The Guardian. Social media has created a world in which everyone seems ecstatic – apart from us.
Is there any way for people to curb their resentment? Yes, said Ethan Kross, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, who studies Facebook’s impact on well-being. Interviewed for The Guardian article, Dr. Kross remarks that “envy is being taken to an extreme. We are constantly bombarded by ‘photoshopped lives’ and that exerts a toll on us the likes of which we have never experienced in the history of our species. And it is not particularly pleasant.”
Negotiating the era of envy requires a conscious effort to not compare one’s life with those of others, especially since their social presence may choose to gloss over their real-life troubles. Heavy lifting to boost personal self-esteem can be beneficial.
But these steps are far easier in theory than in practice. “ – we know that these images and narratives that are presented aren’t real, we can talk about it and rationalize it – but on an emotional level, it’s still pushing buttons,” clinical psychologist Rachel Andrew, ClinPsyD, said in the article. “If those images or narratives tap into what we aspire to, but what we don’t have, then it becomes very powerful.”
Gym seeks to help people stay in recovery
The world for those who are trying to rid themselves of substance use/addiction can be a fragile place. Having support can be the difference between a new clear-headed life and the slide back to darkness. For people with addictions in several U.S. cities, community gyms that operate under the moniker “The Phoenix” can be help.
The Phoenix was started by Scott Strode as a way to help people generate some sweat to stay sober. He has been sober for 21 years. There are no initiation fees to join and no monthly dues; funding comes from donations and grants. The absence of a financial burden comes with the requirements of 48 hours of sobriety, and the desire for that to continue.
The 14 Phoenix gyms in the United States have helped an estimated 26,000 people with their recovery.
“The hardest part about coming to Phoenix is opening the front door. But we’ve removed all those other barriers to access. Because it’s free, it doesn’t matter what insurance you have or how much money is in the bank account or what your addiction story is,” Mr. Strode said in an interview with “CBS This Morning: Saturday.”
Dana Smith has been sober for 9 years. Her introduction to The Phoenix was in prison, serving a sentence for a fatal traffic accident she caused while driving drunk. When asked by the interviewer how she lives with the reality that she took a life, Ms. Smith replies: “That’s another reason it was so important for me to come to Phoenix. I knew that I needed to be in a place where I felt comfortable talking about it. And I felt open and able to share ... I can help others ... and I have to listen the way that people listened for me and the way that people helped me to heal.”
Mr. Strode still burns with passion about the importance of The Phoenix. “For me, getting out of my addiction was like getting out of a burning building. And I just don’t feel like I can walk away if I know people are still in there,” he said.
Success vs. happiness: An illusion?
Harvard University academic Todd Rose, EdD, has taken on the idea that we can be happy or successful, but not both. In the book, “Dark Horse: Achieving Success Through the Pursuit of Fulfillment,” Dr. Rose and his coauthor Ogi Ogas, PhD, posit that striving for personal fulfillment can generate career success, and that this success does not come at the expense of happiness.
“For most of us, when we think about success, it’s pretty narrow, and we end up thinking about things like wealth, status, power. And we sort of think that you have to choose between that and being happy – and dark horses show us that you actually don’t have to choose,” Dr. Rose said in an interview on “CBS This Morning.”
There was a time when Dr. Rose was a young father on welfare with a bleak outlook. Following his father’s advice to find his motivation and pursue it changed his life.
“Think about the things that you enjoy doing and ask yourself why. ... The more you think about those things, the more you know what really moves you. And if you ask yourself that question often enough, it will reveal your broader motives and that will put you on a path to fulfillment,” Dr. Rose said.
The same advice goes for parents trying to counsel their children about career choices. “But if you think about us as parents, we actually don’t ask our kids (what motivates them) very often. We spend a lot of time telling them what should matter and very little time helping them figure it out for themselves,” Dr. Rose said. “They need to figure out what really matters to them and what motivates them, and we can help them by asking.”
Healthy elders break stereotypes
Medical care is focused on helping patients get better. Another aspect of medical care – keeping healthy people healthy – is not always high on the learning agenda. But at more than 20 medical schools in the United States, second-year students are getting another perspective on health care from healthy seniors.
Eighty two-year-old Elizabeth Shepherd is a participant in the program being offered to medical students at Cornell University in New York City. Ms. Shepherd acquaints the students with her everyday life, which includes the occasional fall, dealing with macular degeneration, and the desire for more sexual activity. “It’s important that they don’t think life stops as you get older,” Ms. Shepherd said in an interview with The New York Times. “So I decided I would be frank with them.”
The program can help re-jig the sometimes distorted view that med students have of older adults. “Unfortunately, most education takes place within the hospital,” said Ronald D. Adelman, MD, who developed the program at Cornell. “If you’re only seeing the hospitalized elderly, you’re seeing the debilitated, the physically deteriorating, the demented. It’s easy to pick up ageist stereotypes.”
A powerful take-home message for the students is that all people are worth treating, regardless of age.
Family separations worse than thought
The trauma of the separation of children from family members seeking to enter the United States from Mexico and countries farther south is undeniable. Now, as reported in Mother Jones, Amnesty International indicates far more families than officially tallied have been separated.
“The Trump administration is waging a deliberate campaign of widespread human rights violations in order to punish and deter people seeking safety at the U.S.-Mexico border,” Erika Guevara-Rosas, the Americas director at Amnesty International, said in a statement.
The American Psychiatric Association has called for an end to the policy on mental health grounds. “Children depend on their parents for safety and support. Any forced separation is highly stressful for children and can cause lifelong trauma, as well as an increased risk of other mental illnesses, such as depression, anxiety, and posttraumatic stress disorder. The evidence is clear that this level of trauma also results in serious medical and health consequences for these children and their caregivers,” according to the APA statement.
Compounding the trauma, if a child’s parents are deported while the child is in detention, the child could be put up for adoption without notification of the parents. Reports of abuse of children at some detention centers have heightened criticism of the policy.
For most people, life is a roller coaster of satisfaction and challenge. And in the midst of days filled with the latter, the social media chronicles of someone’s seemingly perfect life can set the teeth on edge. But should seeing those adventures from afar generate feelings of envy and self-loathing?
No, argues a piece written in The Guardian. Social media has created a world in which everyone seems ecstatic – apart from us.
Is there any way for people to curb their resentment? Yes, said Ethan Kross, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, who studies Facebook’s impact on well-being. Interviewed for The Guardian article, Dr. Kross remarks that “envy is being taken to an extreme. We are constantly bombarded by ‘photoshopped lives’ and that exerts a toll on us the likes of which we have never experienced in the history of our species. And it is not particularly pleasant.”
Negotiating the era of envy requires a conscious effort to not compare one’s life with those of others, especially since their social presence may choose to gloss over their real-life troubles. Heavy lifting to boost personal self-esteem can be beneficial.
But these steps are far easier in theory than in practice. “ – we know that these images and narratives that are presented aren’t real, we can talk about it and rationalize it – but on an emotional level, it’s still pushing buttons,” clinical psychologist Rachel Andrew, ClinPsyD, said in the article. “If those images or narratives tap into what we aspire to, but what we don’t have, then it becomes very powerful.”
Gym seeks to help people stay in recovery
The world for those who are trying to rid themselves of substance use/addiction can be a fragile place. Having support can be the difference between a new clear-headed life and the slide back to darkness. For people with addictions in several U.S. cities, community gyms that operate under the moniker “The Phoenix” can be help.
The Phoenix was started by Scott Strode as a way to help people generate some sweat to stay sober. He has been sober for 21 years. There are no initiation fees to join and no monthly dues; funding comes from donations and grants. The absence of a financial burden comes with the requirements of 48 hours of sobriety, and the desire for that to continue.
The 14 Phoenix gyms in the United States have helped an estimated 26,000 people with their recovery.
“The hardest part about coming to Phoenix is opening the front door. But we’ve removed all those other barriers to access. Because it’s free, it doesn’t matter what insurance you have or how much money is in the bank account or what your addiction story is,” Mr. Strode said in an interview with “CBS This Morning: Saturday.”
Dana Smith has been sober for 9 years. Her introduction to The Phoenix was in prison, serving a sentence for a fatal traffic accident she caused while driving drunk. When asked by the interviewer how she lives with the reality that she took a life, Ms. Smith replies: “That’s another reason it was so important for me to come to Phoenix. I knew that I needed to be in a place where I felt comfortable talking about it. And I felt open and able to share ... I can help others ... and I have to listen the way that people listened for me and the way that people helped me to heal.”
Mr. Strode still burns with passion about the importance of The Phoenix. “For me, getting out of my addiction was like getting out of a burning building. And I just don’t feel like I can walk away if I know people are still in there,” he said.
Success vs. happiness: An illusion?
Harvard University academic Todd Rose, EdD, has taken on the idea that we can be happy or successful, but not both. In the book, “Dark Horse: Achieving Success Through the Pursuit of Fulfillment,” Dr. Rose and his coauthor Ogi Ogas, PhD, posit that striving for personal fulfillment can generate career success, and that this success does not come at the expense of happiness.
“For most of us, when we think about success, it’s pretty narrow, and we end up thinking about things like wealth, status, power. And we sort of think that you have to choose between that and being happy – and dark horses show us that you actually don’t have to choose,” Dr. Rose said in an interview on “CBS This Morning.”
There was a time when Dr. Rose was a young father on welfare with a bleak outlook. Following his father’s advice to find his motivation and pursue it changed his life.
“Think about the things that you enjoy doing and ask yourself why. ... The more you think about those things, the more you know what really moves you. And if you ask yourself that question often enough, it will reveal your broader motives and that will put you on a path to fulfillment,” Dr. Rose said.
The same advice goes for parents trying to counsel their children about career choices. “But if you think about us as parents, we actually don’t ask our kids (what motivates them) very often. We spend a lot of time telling them what should matter and very little time helping them figure it out for themselves,” Dr. Rose said. “They need to figure out what really matters to them and what motivates them, and we can help them by asking.”
Healthy elders break stereotypes
Medical care is focused on helping patients get better. Another aspect of medical care – keeping healthy people healthy – is not always high on the learning agenda. But at more than 20 medical schools in the United States, second-year students are getting another perspective on health care from healthy seniors.
Eighty two-year-old Elizabeth Shepherd is a participant in the program being offered to medical students at Cornell University in New York City. Ms. Shepherd acquaints the students with her everyday life, which includes the occasional fall, dealing with macular degeneration, and the desire for more sexual activity. “It’s important that they don’t think life stops as you get older,” Ms. Shepherd said in an interview with The New York Times. “So I decided I would be frank with them.”
The program can help re-jig the sometimes distorted view that med students have of older adults. “Unfortunately, most education takes place within the hospital,” said Ronald D. Adelman, MD, who developed the program at Cornell. “If you’re only seeing the hospitalized elderly, you’re seeing the debilitated, the physically deteriorating, the demented. It’s easy to pick up ageist stereotypes.”
A powerful take-home message for the students is that all people are worth treating, regardless of age.
Family separations worse than thought
The trauma of the separation of children from family members seeking to enter the United States from Mexico and countries farther south is undeniable. Now, as reported in Mother Jones, Amnesty International indicates far more families than officially tallied have been separated.
“The Trump administration is waging a deliberate campaign of widespread human rights violations in order to punish and deter people seeking safety at the U.S.-Mexico border,” Erika Guevara-Rosas, the Americas director at Amnesty International, said in a statement.
The American Psychiatric Association has called for an end to the policy on mental health grounds. “Children depend on their parents for safety and support. Any forced separation is highly stressful for children and can cause lifelong trauma, as well as an increased risk of other mental illnesses, such as depression, anxiety, and posttraumatic stress disorder. The evidence is clear that this level of trauma also results in serious medical and health consequences for these children and their caregivers,” according to the APA statement.
Compounding the trauma, if a child’s parents are deported while the child is in detention, the child could be put up for adoption without notification of the parents. Reports of abuse of children at some detention centers have heightened criticism of the policy.
For most people, life is a roller coaster of satisfaction and challenge. And in the midst of days filled with the latter, the social media chronicles of someone’s seemingly perfect life can set the teeth on edge. But should seeing those adventures from afar generate feelings of envy and self-loathing?
No, argues a piece written in The Guardian. Social media has created a world in which everyone seems ecstatic – apart from us.
Is there any way for people to curb their resentment? Yes, said Ethan Kross, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, who studies Facebook’s impact on well-being. Interviewed for The Guardian article, Dr. Kross remarks that “envy is being taken to an extreme. We are constantly bombarded by ‘photoshopped lives’ and that exerts a toll on us the likes of which we have never experienced in the history of our species. And it is not particularly pleasant.”
Negotiating the era of envy requires a conscious effort to not compare one’s life with those of others, especially since their social presence may choose to gloss over their real-life troubles. Heavy lifting to boost personal self-esteem can be beneficial.
But these steps are far easier in theory than in practice. “ – we know that these images and narratives that are presented aren’t real, we can talk about it and rationalize it – but on an emotional level, it’s still pushing buttons,” clinical psychologist Rachel Andrew, ClinPsyD, said in the article. “If those images or narratives tap into what we aspire to, but what we don’t have, then it becomes very powerful.”
Gym seeks to help people stay in recovery
The world for those who are trying to rid themselves of substance use/addiction can be a fragile place. Having support can be the difference between a new clear-headed life and the slide back to darkness. For people with addictions in several U.S. cities, community gyms that operate under the moniker “The Phoenix” can be help.
The Phoenix was started by Scott Strode as a way to help people generate some sweat to stay sober. He has been sober for 21 years. There are no initiation fees to join and no monthly dues; funding comes from donations and grants. The absence of a financial burden comes with the requirements of 48 hours of sobriety, and the desire for that to continue.
The 14 Phoenix gyms in the United States have helped an estimated 26,000 people with their recovery.
“The hardest part about coming to Phoenix is opening the front door. But we’ve removed all those other barriers to access. Because it’s free, it doesn’t matter what insurance you have or how much money is in the bank account or what your addiction story is,” Mr. Strode said in an interview with “CBS This Morning: Saturday.”
Dana Smith has been sober for 9 years. Her introduction to The Phoenix was in prison, serving a sentence for a fatal traffic accident she caused while driving drunk. When asked by the interviewer how she lives with the reality that she took a life, Ms. Smith replies: “That’s another reason it was so important for me to come to Phoenix. I knew that I needed to be in a place where I felt comfortable talking about it. And I felt open and able to share ... I can help others ... and I have to listen the way that people listened for me and the way that people helped me to heal.”
Mr. Strode still burns with passion about the importance of The Phoenix. “For me, getting out of my addiction was like getting out of a burning building. And I just don’t feel like I can walk away if I know people are still in there,” he said.
Success vs. happiness: An illusion?
Harvard University academic Todd Rose, EdD, has taken on the idea that we can be happy or successful, but not both. In the book, “Dark Horse: Achieving Success Through the Pursuit of Fulfillment,” Dr. Rose and his coauthor Ogi Ogas, PhD, posit that striving for personal fulfillment can generate career success, and that this success does not come at the expense of happiness.
“For most of us, when we think about success, it’s pretty narrow, and we end up thinking about things like wealth, status, power. And we sort of think that you have to choose between that and being happy – and dark horses show us that you actually don’t have to choose,” Dr. Rose said in an interview on “CBS This Morning.”
There was a time when Dr. Rose was a young father on welfare with a bleak outlook. Following his father’s advice to find his motivation and pursue it changed his life.
“Think about the things that you enjoy doing and ask yourself why. ... The more you think about those things, the more you know what really moves you. And if you ask yourself that question often enough, it will reveal your broader motives and that will put you on a path to fulfillment,” Dr. Rose said.
The same advice goes for parents trying to counsel their children about career choices. “But if you think about us as parents, we actually don’t ask our kids (what motivates them) very often. We spend a lot of time telling them what should matter and very little time helping them figure it out for themselves,” Dr. Rose said. “They need to figure out what really matters to them and what motivates them, and we can help them by asking.”
Healthy elders break stereotypes
Medical care is focused on helping patients get better. Another aspect of medical care – keeping healthy people healthy – is not always high on the learning agenda. But at more than 20 medical schools in the United States, second-year students are getting another perspective on health care from healthy seniors.
Eighty two-year-old Elizabeth Shepherd is a participant in the program being offered to medical students at Cornell University in New York City. Ms. Shepherd acquaints the students with her everyday life, which includes the occasional fall, dealing with macular degeneration, and the desire for more sexual activity. “It’s important that they don’t think life stops as you get older,” Ms. Shepherd said in an interview with The New York Times. “So I decided I would be frank with them.”
The program can help re-jig the sometimes distorted view that med students have of older adults. “Unfortunately, most education takes place within the hospital,” said Ronald D. Adelman, MD, who developed the program at Cornell. “If you’re only seeing the hospitalized elderly, you’re seeing the debilitated, the physically deteriorating, the demented. It’s easy to pick up ageist stereotypes.”
A powerful take-home message for the students is that all people are worth treating, regardless of age.
Family separations worse than thought
The trauma of the separation of children from family members seeking to enter the United States from Mexico and countries farther south is undeniable. Now, as reported in Mother Jones, Amnesty International indicates far more families than officially tallied have been separated.
“The Trump administration is waging a deliberate campaign of widespread human rights violations in order to punish and deter people seeking safety at the U.S.-Mexico border,” Erika Guevara-Rosas, the Americas director at Amnesty International, said in a statement.
The American Psychiatric Association has called for an end to the policy on mental health grounds. “Children depend on their parents for safety and support. Any forced separation is highly stressful for children and can cause lifelong trauma, as well as an increased risk of other mental illnesses, such as depression, anxiety, and posttraumatic stress disorder. The evidence is clear that this level of trauma also results in serious medical and health consequences for these children and their caregivers,” according to the APA statement.
Compounding the trauma, if a child’s parents are deported while the child is in detention, the child could be put up for adoption without notification of the parents. Reports of abuse of children at some detention centers have heightened criticism of the policy.
