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For those who have chosen the surgeon’s path, finding a sustainable work/life balance is challenging. For surgeons with young families and spousal responsibilities, achieving that balance may seem like an unattainable goal. As a rural surgeon with a spouse and children, I am here to say that rural practice has many benefits to those who love their work and also want a balanced life. I recommend that young surgeons, women in particular, consider this path for both the professional and personal advantages it offers.
I always tell the medical students that rotate with me, “When it is 4 o’clock in the morning and you forgot to go home ... be that.” That is to say, whatever rotation they are on when they have that feeling, that is the specialty they should choose. That was us when it came to surgery. When we were students going through surgical rotations we could not get enough. We wanted to see everything, do everything, and we didn’t want to miss anything. Many of our colleagues recommended against choosing surgery. We were told, “You’ll never have a life or a family;” “Your life will be horrible,” etc.
Now, many years later, I still love what I do as a surgeon. But I also love the other half of my life. I chose to practice rural surgery because I sensed that a balanced life would be possible in the rural setting. So I offer the following 10 tips for young surgeons who might be considering a rural practice:
1. Pick a good small town
Sit down and write out a list of all the things you want in a small town. My list, of course, will be different from your list but most importantly, make the list! It is no use taking a job in rural Colorado if you hate to hunt and fish. Consider the town and the job equally. For women surgeons, you may want to look for a place where there are women in upper administrative roles and other female physicians on staff. All small towns are definitely not alike and if you pick one for the hospital or the job without considering your surroundings, you will not likely be happy.
2. Don’t commute
Some people take a job in a small town or a rural setting but choose to live 30 miles away in the next larger town. I suggest living in the town you practice in. If at all possible, live close to the hospital. Every minute that you spend on the road is a minute away from your family. Living far away makes that 2 a.m. call from the ER that much more painful. You also miss out on the opportunity to become a real part of your community.
3. Choose the right partner
Small town physicians are tough to keep. Rural practice turnover is high. One of the most common reasons I hear for why a physician has left the area is because his or her spouse wasn’t happy. No matter how appealing the job seems, no matter how much bonus money they offer, no matter how great the hospital appears, if your spouse doesn’t like it there, you’ll be leaving. You may love your job and back country camping every weekend, but if your spouse pines for Whole Foods and the opera, you will be moving on eventually.
A large part of rural life revolves around events in the school system, and even if you have no young children of your own, it is helpful to make an effort to attend some of these events, if only to support your neighbor’s kids. It goes a long way to establish you as someone who is involved in the community and who cares. Remember, it is the mothers young and old who make many of the health care decisions for their families. Volunteer for events or get involved in the science program at the high school. You may find that you are a unique role model for teenagers in your community.
4. Choose the right partners
Rural general surgery is challenging enough without having to compete with those around you. Surgery in the small town setting becomes infinitely more pleasant when you have good partners. Is the practice set up to help and support each partner, or are you pitted against one another, competing for RVUs? Would your partners tolerate covering your call for 3 months of maternity leave or would this cause resentment? Look for a practice where the surgeons work together and cover for each other, and your small town life will be greatly enhanced.
5. Live within your means
A small town surgical practice can make for a very comfortable life. The cost of living is less, which means that your money goes further, with more left over for expenses such as saving for your kids’ college education. In addition, when you live in rural America, you won’t likely feel pressured to join the super expensive country club, send your kids to an expensive school, or drive a six-figure car. Although we may not make quite as much as the big city folk, when you account for the cost of living, rural surgeons do quite well.
6. Hire help
My husband is a firefighter, and at one point early in our marriage he was working night shift. With me on call and small children at home, that presented somewhat of a problem. But we solved it with a live-in nanny. Some people say, “I don’t want someone else raising my children,” and then they spend all their free time washing baby’s laundry and cleaning house instead of playing with the baby and having family meals and other family time together. How you utilize a nanny or any other help you hire is determined by you. But the idea is to hire help to do the mundane things so that you can do the fun things.
7. Learn to charm a rock
Small towns can be tough. Make one mistake, make one person angry, and before you eat your breakfast the next morning, the whole town knows about it. A very wise mentor of mine once said, “You catch more flies with honey.” Of course, he was absolutely right. When we work in bigger places, we tend to become numb to our own behavior because outbursts and conflicts are so common that our own little outbursts get lost in the mix. Such is not the case in a small town.
In rural America, people stop their cars to let you pull out. This can be very shocking when you come from New York and your first thought is …am I being carjacked? In a rural town, if you walk around with a Band-Aid on your face, every single person you pass on the street will ask if you are ok. It teaches you to treat other people well, even if you are having an absolutely terrible day. You can’t get away with taking your mood out on other people in a small town.
One very nice thing about working in a rural community is that people are grateful and have a very long memory for whatever you’ve done for them. Whether you’ve cured their colon cancer or removed a lipoma, they will stop you on the street to thank you or tell their friends for years afterward about how wonderful you were.
8. Get a hobby
Although life as a small town general surgeon can seem like a 24/7 occupation, careful time management and household support can create space for a hobby. And you need one. No matter how much we all love surgery, it is essential that we cultivate the ability to leave it be for a time here and there. A hobby (preferably one that helps alleviate stress) can help stave off burnout.
9. Don’t forget to sleep
This much-neglected survival tip is so important. We all have to be on call, some more than others. But most of us also have nights where we are not on call. These should not be the nights where we stay up until 3 a.m. watching every episode of the latest Netflix series. You must resist that temptation. The older you get, the harder it is to recover from a night out operating.
10. Never forget the 4 a.m. feeling
So you may learn to adjust to the small town and then to love it fiercely and protectively. You may even buy your own cow once a year or join a shooting range. You may learn to discuss the fall elk hunt, ice fishing, ranching, and the best place to buy ammunition with your patients. You walk through the hospital and you know every single person you pass in the hallway as well as their kids.
Let us never forget why we chose to be surgeons. Most of us would weather any challenge to continue to do what we love. And choosing a rural practice is one way to practice surgery and also achieve a satisfying work/life balance.
Dr. Long is an ACS Fellow and a general surgeon in rural West Virginia. She is the mother of five and an ironman triathlete. She is currently preparing for her 18th surgical mission trip to Central America in April. Dr. Justine Gavagan and Dr. Catherine O’Connor contributed to this article.
For those who have chosen the surgeon’s path, finding a sustainable work/life balance is challenging. For surgeons with young families and spousal responsibilities, achieving that balance may seem like an unattainable goal. As a rural surgeon with a spouse and children, I am here to say that rural practice has many benefits to those who love their work and also want a balanced life. I recommend that young surgeons, women in particular, consider this path for both the professional and personal advantages it offers.
I always tell the medical students that rotate with me, “When it is 4 o’clock in the morning and you forgot to go home ... be that.” That is to say, whatever rotation they are on when they have that feeling, that is the specialty they should choose. That was us when it came to surgery. When we were students going through surgical rotations we could not get enough. We wanted to see everything, do everything, and we didn’t want to miss anything. Many of our colleagues recommended against choosing surgery. We were told, “You’ll never have a life or a family;” “Your life will be horrible,” etc.
Now, many years later, I still love what I do as a surgeon. But I also love the other half of my life. I chose to practice rural surgery because I sensed that a balanced life would be possible in the rural setting. So I offer the following 10 tips for young surgeons who might be considering a rural practice:
1. Pick a good small town
Sit down and write out a list of all the things you want in a small town. My list, of course, will be different from your list but most importantly, make the list! It is no use taking a job in rural Colorado if you hate to hunt and fish. Consider the town and the job equally. For women surgeons, you may want to look for a place where there are women in upper administrative roles and other female physicians on staff. All small towns are definitely not alike and if you pick one for the hospital or the job without considering your surroundings, you will not likely be happy.
2. Don’t commute
Some people take a job in a small town or a rural setting but choose to live 30 miles away in the next larger town. I suggest living in the town you practice in. If at all possible, live close to the hospital. Every minute that you spend on the road is a minute away from your family. Living far away makes that 2 a.m. call from the ER that much more painful. You also miss out on the opportunity to become a real part of your community.
3. Choose the right partner
Small town physicians are tough to keep. Rural practice turnover is high. One of the most common reasons I hear for why a physician has left the area is because his or her spouse wasn’t happy. No matter how appealing the job seems, no matter how much bonus money they offer, no matter how great the hospital appears, if your spouse doesn’t like it there, you’ll be leaving. You may love your job and back country camping every weekend, but if your spouse pines for Whole Foods and the opera, you will be moving on eventually.
A large part of rural life revolves around events in the school system, and even if you have no young children of your own, it is helpful to make an effort to attend some of these events, if only to support your neighbor’s kids. It goes a long way to establish you as someone who is involved in the community and who cares. Remember, it is the mothers young and old who make many of the health care decisions for their families. Volunteer for events or get involved in the science program at the high school. You may find that you are a unique role model for teenagers in your community.
4. Choose the right partners
Rural general surgery is challenging enough without having to compete with those around you. Surgery in the small town setting becomes infinitely more pleasant when you have good partners. Is the practice set up to help and support each partner, or are you pitted against one another, competing for RVUs? Would your partners tolerate covering your call for 3 months of maternity leave or would this cause resentment? Look for a practice where the surgeons work together and cover for each other, and your small town life will be greatly enhanced.
5. Live within your means
A small town surgical practice can make for a very comfortable life. The cost of living is less, which means that your money goes further, with more left over for expenses such as saving for your kids’ college education. In addition, when you live in rural America, you won’t likely feel pressured to join the super expensive country club, send your kids to an expensive school, or drive a six-figure car. Although we may not make quite as much as the big city folk, when you account for the cost of living, rural surgeons do quite well.
6. Hire help
My husband is a firefighter, and at one point early in our marriage he was working night shift. With me on call and small children at home, that presented somewhat of a problem. But we solved it with a live-in nanny. Some people say, “I don’t want someone else raising my children,” and then they spend all their free time washing baby’s laundry and cleaning house instead of playing with the baby and having family meals and other family time together. How you utilize a nanny or any other help you hire is determined by you. But the idea is to hire help to do the mundane things so that you can do the fun things.
7. Learn to charm a rock
Small towns can be tough. Make one mistake, make one person angry, and before you eat your breakfast the next morning, the whole town knows about it. A very wise mentor of mine once said, “You catch more flies with honey.” Of course, he was absolutely right. When we work in bigger places, we tend to become numb to our own behavior because outbursts and conflicts are so common that our own little outbursts get lost in the mix. Such is not the case in a small town.
In rural America, people stop their cars to let you pull out. This can be very shocking when you come from New York and your first thought is …am I being carjacked? In a rural town, if you walk around with a Band-Aid on your face, every single person you pass on the street will ask if you are ok. It teaches you to treat other people well, even if you are having an absolutely terrible day. You can’t get away with taking your mood out on other people in a small town.
One very nice thing about working in a rural community is that people are grateful and have a very long memory for whatever you’ve done for them. Whether you’ve cured their colon cancer or removed a lipoma, they will stop you on the street to thank you or tell their friends for years afterward about how wonderful you were.
8. Get a hobby
Although life as a small town general surgeon can seem like a 24/7 occupation, careful time management and household support can create space for a hobby. And you need one. No matter how much we all love surgery, it is essential that we cultivate the ability to leave it be for a time here and there. A hobby (preferably one that helps alleviate stress) can help stave off burnout.
9. Don’t forget to sleep
This much-neglected survival tip is so important. We all have to be on call, some more than others. But most of us also have nights where we are not on call. These should not be the nights where we stay up until 3 a.m. watching every episode of the latest Netflix series. You must resist that temptation. The older you get, the harder it is to recover from a night out operating.
10. Never forget the 4 a.m. feeling
So you may learn to adjust to the small town and then to love it fiercely and protectively. You may even buy your own cow once a year or join a shooting range. You may learn to discuss the fall elk hunt, ice fishing, ranching, and the best place to buy ammunition with your patients. You walk through the hospital and you know every single person you pass in the hallway as well as their kids.
Let us never forget why we chose to be surgeons. Most of us would weather any challenge to continue to do what we love. And choosing a rural practice is one way to practice surgery and also achieve a satisfying work/life balance.
Dr. Long is an ACS Fellow and a general surgeon in rural West Virginia. She is the mother of five and an ironman triathlete. She is currently preparing for her 18th surgical mission trip to Central America in April. Dr. Justine Gavagan and Dr. Catherine O’Connor contributed to this article.
For those who have chosen the surgeon’s path, finding a sustainable work/life balance is challenging. For surgeons with young families and spousal responsibilities, achieving that balance may seem like an unattainable goal. As a rural surgeon with a spouse and children, I am here to say that rural practice has many benefits to those who love their work and also want a balanced life. I recommend that young surgeons, women in particular, consider this path for both the professional and personal advantages it offers.
I always tell the medical students that rotate with me, “When it is 4 o’clock in the morning and you forgot to go home ... be that.” That is to say, whatever rotation they are on when they have that feeling, that is the specialty they should choose. That was us when it came to surgery. When we were students going through surgical rotations we could not get enough. We wanted to see everything, do everything, and we didn’t want to miss anything. Many of our colleagues recommended against choosing surgery. We were told, “You’ll never have a life or a family;” “Your life will be horrible,” etc.
Now, many years later, I still love what I do as a surgeon. But I also love the other half of my life. I chose to practice rural surgery because I sensed that a balanced life would be possible in the rural setting. So I offer the following 10 tips for young surgeons who might be considering a rural practice:
1. Pick a good small town
Sit down and write out a list of all the things you want in a small town. My list, of course, will be different from your list but most importantly, make the list! It is no use taking a job in rural Colorado if you hate to hunt and fish. Consider the town and the job equally. For women surgeons, you may want to look for a place where there are women in upper administrative roles and other female physicians on staff. All small towns are definitely not alike and if you pick one for the hospital or the job without considering your surroundings, you will not likely be happy.
2. Don’t commute
Some people take a job in a small town or a rural setting but choose to live 30 miles away in the next larger town. I suggest living in the town you practice in. If at all possible, live close to the hospital. Every minute that you spend on the road is a minute away from your family. Living far away makes that 2 a.m. call from the ER that much more painful. You also miss out on the opportunity to become a real part of your community.
3. Choose the right partner
Small town physicians are tough to keep. Rural practice turnover is high. One of the most common reasons I hear for why a physician has left the area is because his or her spouse wasn’t happy. No matter how appealing the job seems, no matter how much bonus money they offer, no matter how great the hospital appears, if your spouse doesn’t like it there, you’ll be leaving. You may love your job and back country camping every weekend, but if your spouse pines for Whole Foods and the opera, you will be moving on eventually.
A large part of rural life revolves around events in the school system, and even if you have no young children of your own, it is helpful to make an effort to attend some of these events, if only to support your neighbor’s kids. It goes a long way to establish you as someone who is involved in the community and who cares. Remember, it is the mothers young and old who make many of the health care decisions for their families. Volunteer for events or get involved in the science program at the high school. You may find that you are a unique role model for teenagers in your community.
4. Choose the right partners
Rural general surgery is challenging enough without having to compete with those around you. Surgery in the small town setting becomes infinitely more pleasant when you have good partners. Is the practice set up to help and support each partner, or are you pitted against one another, competing for RVUs? Would your partners tolerate covering your call for 3 months of maternity leave or would this cause resentment? Look for a practice where the surgeons work together and cover for each other, and your small town life will be greatly enhanced.
5. Live within your means
A small town surgical practice can make for a very comfortable life. The cost of living is less, which means that your money goes further, with more left over for expenses such as saving for your kids’ college education. In addition, when you live in rural America, you won’t likely feel pressured to join the super expensive country club, send your kids to an expensive school, or drive a six-figure car. Although we may not make quite as much as the big city folk, when you account for the cost of living, rural surgeons do quite well.
6. Hire help
My husband is a firefighter, and at one point early in our marriage he was working night shift. With me on call and small children at home, that presented somewhat of a problem. But we solved it with a live-in nanny. Some people say, “I don’t want someone else raising my children,” and then they spend all their free time washing baby’s laundry and cleaning house instead of playing with the baby and having family meals and other family time together. How you utilize a nanny or any other help you hire is determined by you. But the idea is to hire help to do the mundane things so that you can do the fun things.
7. Learn to charm a rock
Small towns can be tough. Make one mistake, make one person angry, and before you eat your breakfast the next morning, the whole town knows about it. A very wise mentor of mine once said, “You catch more flies with honey.” Of course, he was absolutely right. When we work in bigger places, we tend to become numb to our own behavior because outbursts and conflicts are so common that our own little outbursts get lost in the mix. Such is not the case in a small town.
In rural America, people stop their cars to let you pull out. This can be very shocking when you come from New York and your first thought is …am I being carjacked? In a rural town, if you walk around with a Band-Aid on your face, every single person you pass on the street will ask if you are ok. It teaches you to treat other people well, even if you are having an absolutely terrible day. You can’t get away with taking your mood out on other people in a small town.
One very nice thing about working in a rural community is that people are grateful and have a very long memory for whatever you’ve done for them. Whether you’ve cured their colon cancer or removed a lipoma, they will stop you on the street to thank you or tell their friends for years afterward about how wonderful you were.
8. Get a hobby
Although life as a small town general surgeon can seem like a 24/7 occupation, careful time management and household support can create space for a hobby. And you need one. No matter how much we all love surgery, it is essential that we cultivate the ability to leave it be for a time here and there. A hobby (preferably one that helps alleviate stress) can help stave off burnout.
9. Don’t forget to sleep
This much-neglected survival tip is so important. We all have to be on call, some more than others. But most of us also have nights where we are not on call. These should not be the nights where we stay up until 3 a.m. watching every episode of the latest Netflix series. You must resist that temptation. The older you get, the harder it is to recover from a night out operating.
10. Never forget the 4 a.m. feeling
So you may learn to adjust to the small town and then to love it fiercely and protectively. You may even buy your own cow once a year or join a shooting range. You may learn to discuss the fall elk hunt, ice fishing, ranching, and the best place to buy ammunition with your patients. You walk through the hospital and you know every single person you pass in the hallway as well as their kids.
Let us never forget why we chose to be surgeons. Most of us would weather any challenge to continue to do what we love. And choosing a rural practice is one way to practice surgery and also achieve a satisfying work/life balance.
Dr. Long is an ACS Fellow and a general surgeon in rural West Virginia. She is the mother of five and an ironman triathlete. She is currently preparing for her 18th surgical mission trip to Central America in April. Dr. Justine Gavagan and Dr. Catherine O’Connor contributed to this article.
