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The school year has begun, but for most families it is a school year without precedent. Parents have to monitor and support their children through school days that are partially or completely virtual, juggling sudden class transitions, troubleshooting technology, and trying to manage lessons and assignments. Most related activities such as sports and orchestra are cancelled. Parents themselves are anxious about completing their work, if they have jobs at all. On top of this, all of us have faced months of challenge and disruption with virtually no relief, with regard to seeing friends, traveling, or going out to dinner or a movie. For your patients with ADHD, the challenges of this school year will be even more difficult. Offering parents some guidance about how to approach and manage these challenges can support their adaptation and lessen the chances of compounded problems by the time in-person school resumes.
Children with ADHD, particularly those in elementary school, are managing symptoms of difficulty shifting their attention, sustaining focus on less-engaging material, and motor hyperactivity. They often have difficulty with organization and planning, working memory, and impulse control. Even with effective medication management, they typically are dependent on external cues and support to manage the demands of school. They benefit from attentive teachers who can redirect their attention, offer serial prompts before transitions, and provide patient support, reassurance, and confidence when they grow frustrated. And it often is easier for teachers to do this than for parents, as they have years of experience and training, and the support of their professionals in the school setting. And of course they are less likely to personalize these challenges than are parents, who are likely to feel worried, guilty, or discouraged by the child’s persistent difficulties with attention. Parents who are stressed or who may be managing difficulties with attention themselves – as ADHD is one of the more heritable psychiatric disorders – will be vulnerable to feeling frustration and losing their temper.
Suggest to the parents of your patients with ADHD that there will be frustrations and challenges as they manage the learning curve of virtual school with their children. Increasing the dose of an effective stimulant may be tempting, but there are a few strategies that may better help the children adapt to a virtual classroom without too much distress.
Promote good sleep patterns
Adequate, restful sleep is critical to our physical and psychological health and to healthy development. Children with ADHD are prone to sleep difficulties, and stimulants may exacerbate these.
So, it is critical that parents prioritize setting and maintaining healthy routines around sleep. All screens should power down at least 1 hour before lights out, and parents can help their children know when to accept “good enough” homework, so they also may get good enough sleep.
Daily physical activity helps enormously with restful sleep. A warm bath or shower and quiet reading (not homework!) can help wired kids unwind and be truly ready for lights out. Bedtime may start to slide later as life’s routines are disrupted with work and school happening at home, but it is important to maintain a consistent bedtime that will allow for 8-10 hours of sleep.
Create routines around the “school day”
Good schools involve a predictable rhythm and a lot of caring adults engaging with children. They have very consistent routines at the start of each day, and families can create their own to offer structure and cues to their children.
Start the day with a consistent wake up time and routine plus a healthy breakfast. Take advantage of the extra time that no commute to school or bus ride allow, whether by supporting more sleep, cooking a hot breakfast together, or by letting the children engage in a beloved activity, such as listening to music, reading a comic book, or working on a craft before the computer goes on.
The routine should be centered on the rhythm of the school, and realistic for parents. It matters most that it is consistent, incorporates nutritious food and exercise, and is pleasant and even fun.
Set the stage
Teachers will often put their students with ADHD in the front of the class, so they can offer prompts and so the students are less distracted by peers. Consider where in the home is a good spot for the children, one that minimizes distractions and where a parent is near enough to support and monitor them.
Parents might want to avoid rooms with a lot of toys or games that may tempt children, and children will need to be apart from (noisy) siblings. If they forget to mute themselves or are tempted to open another window on their computer, it is helpful for a parent to be near enough to be unobtrusively following along. Parents will hear the sounds of trouble and be able to help if their children get lost in an assignment or are otherwise off-track.
Create reasonable expectations and positive rewards
Reassure parents that this adjustment is going to be hard for all children and families. Now is not the season for perfectionism or focusing too intensely on mastering a challenging subject.
Reasonable goals for the first month might be for the child to get some enjoyment from school and to get better at specific tasks (being on time, managing the technology, asking for help when needed).
Parents may even set this goal with their children: “What do you want to be better at by the end of the first month?” If children with ADHD improve at managing the distractions of a virtual class, they will have accomplished a great deal cognitively. It will be hard work for them.
So parents should think about what reward can come at the end of each school day, whether a walk outside together, a game of Uno, or even an afterschool treat together, so children get a sense of success for even incremental adaptation.
Build in breaks from the screen
Spending much more than an hour in a virtual interaction is taxing even for adult attention spans. Parents should feel empowered to speak with their children’s teachers to find ways to build in regular 10- to 15-minute breaks during which their children can have a snack, take a bathroom break, or get their wiggles out.
Ensure there is some physical activity
Recess is usually the most important class of the day in elementary school, and especially for children with ADHD. If parents can make physical activity part of their children’s routines, breaks, and afterschool rewards, their attention, energy, and sleep will be improved.
They might do a workout with the child for 20 minutes before school starts, go for a short walk, or do jumping jacks during breaks. And getting outside to kick a ball, go for a swim, or otherwise get the heart rate up in the sunshine will be the most important thing parents do for their children after protecting their sleep.
Know your child
Remember parents are the experts on their children. School is the setting in which children are both cultivating their strengths and facing challenges. Ask the parents what has been most challenging for their children about school and what was most cherished about it.
Parents should get creative to cultivate their children’s strengths. If a child adores art, it will be so important to try to provide that experience during this school year. There might be other virtual resources (virtual museum tours, YouTube art lessons), a local teacher who can offer socially distant lessons, or even another student who might be able to safely share a teacher – getting a creative and social outlet together.
Are there special teachers that the children are missing? Maybe there is a way to send them emails or have some virtual time with them each week.
If a child struggles with the classroom but excells on the soccer pitch, it will be critical to find a physically distant way for the child to develop that strength, whether with a small, informal practice or a new physical undertaking.
Likewise, parents may need to look elsewhere to help their children manage important challenges. Whether a child is learning how to face anxiety or improve social skills, virtual school might seem like a relief as it takes the pressure off. Help parents consider alternate ways that their children could continue to work on these developmental projects while school is virtual, so they don’t lose ground developmentally.
If parents can set reasonable goals, be patient, and focus on the daily routines, and consider the child’s individual developmental strengths and challenges, they may be better able to manage this challenging year. They may even find improved connection, patience, and perspective for both themselves and their children.
Dr. Swick is physician in chief at Ohana, Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health, Community Hospital of the Monterey (Calif.) Peninsula. Dr. Jellinek is professor emeritus of psychiatry and pediatrics, Harvard Medical School, Boston. Neither Dr. Swick nor Dr. Jellinek had any relevant financial disclosures. Email them at [email protected].
The school year has begun, but for most families it is a school year without precedent. Parents have to monitor and support their children through school days that are partially or completely virtual, juggling sudden class transitions, troubleshooting technology, and trying to manage lessons and assignments. Most related activities such as sports and orchestra are cancelled. Parents themselves are anxious about completing their work, if they have jobs at all. On top of this, all of us have faced months of challenge and disruption with virtually no relief, with regard to seeing friends, traveling, or going out to dinner or a movie. For your patients with ADHD, the challenges of this school year will be even more difficult. Offering parents some guidance about how to approach and manage these challenges can support their adaptation and lessen the chances of compounded problems by the time in-person school resumes.
Children with ADHD, particularly those in elementary school, are managing symptoms of difficulty shifting their attention, sustaining focus on less-engaging material, and motor hyperactivity. They often have difficulty with organization and planning, working memory, and impulse control. Even with effective medication management, they typically are dependent on external cues and support to manage the demands of school. They benefit from attentive teachers who can redirect their attention, offer serial prompts before transitions, and provide patient support, reassurance, and confidence when they grow frustrated. And it often is easier for teachers to do this than for parents, as they have years of experience and training, and the support of their professionals in the school setting. And of course they are less likely to personalize these challenges than are parents, who are likely to feel worried, guilty, or discouraged by the child’s persistent difficulties with attention. Parents who are stressed or who may be managing difficulties with attention themselves – as ADHD is one of the more heritable psychiatric disorders – will be vulnerable to feeling frustration and losing their temper.
Suggest to the parents of your patients with ADHD that there will be frustrations and challenges as they manage the learning curve of virtual school with their children. Increasing the dose of an effective stimulant may be tempting, but there are a few strategies that may better help the children adapt to a virtual classroom without too much distress.
Promote good sleep patterns
Adequate, restful sleep is critical to our physical and psychological health and to healthy development. Children with ADHD are prone to sleep difficulties, and stimulants may exacerbate these.
So, it is critical that parents prioritize setting and maintaining healthy routines around sleep. All screens should power down at least 1 hour before lights out, and parents can help their children know when to accept “good enough” homework, so they also may get good enough sleep.
Daily physical activity helps enormously with restful sleep. A warm bath or shower and quiet reading (not homework!) can help wired kids unwind and be truly ready for lights out. Bedtime may start to slide later as life’s routines are disrupted with work and school happening at home, but it is important to maintain a consistent bedtime that will allow for 8-10 hours of sleep.
Create routines around the “school day”
Good schools involve a predictable rhythm and a lot of caring adults engaging with children. They have very consistent routines at the start of each day, and families can create their own to offer structure and cues to their children.
Start the day with a consistent wake up time and routine plus a healthy breakfast. Take advantage of the extra time that no commute to school or bus ride allow, whether by supporting more sleep, cooking a hot breakfast together, or by letting the children engage in a beloved activity, such as listening to music, reading a comic book, or working on a craft before the computer goes on.
The routine should be centered on the rhythm of the school, and realistic for parents. It matters most that it is consistent, incorporates nutritious food and exercise, and is pleasant and even fun.
Set the stage
Teachers will often put their students with ADHD in the front of the class, so they can offer prompts and so the students are less distracted by peers. Consider where in the home is a good spot for the children, one that minimizes distractions and where a parent is near enough to support and monitor them.
Parents might want to avoid rooms with a lot of toys or games that may tempt children, and children will need to be apart from (noisy) siblings. If they forget to mute themselves or are tempted to open another window on their computer, it is helpful for a parent to be near enough to be unobtrusively following along. Parents will hear the sounds of trouble and be able to help if their children get lost in an assignment or are otherwise off-track.
Create reasonable expectations and positive rewards
Reassure parents that this adjustment is going to be hard for all children and families. Now is not the season for perfectionism or focusing too intensely on mastering a challenging subject.
Reasonable goals for the first month might be for the child to get some enjoyment from school and to get better at specific tasks (being on time, managing the technology, asking for help when needed).
Parents may even set this goal with their children: “What do you want to be better at by the end of the first month?” If children with ADHD improve at managing the distractions of a virtual class, they will have accomplished a great deal cognitively. It will be hard work for them.
So parents should think about what reward can come at the end of each school day, whether a walk outside together, a game of Uno, or even an afterschool treat together, so children get a sense of success for even incremental adaptation.
Build in breaks from the screen
Spending much more than an hour in a virtual interaction is taxing even for adult attention spans. Parents should feel empowered to speak with their children’s teachers to find ways to build in regular 10- to 15-minute breaks during which their children can have a snack, take a bathroom break, or get their wiggles out.
Ensure there is some physical activity
Recess is usually the most important class of the day in elementary school, and especially for children with ADHD. If parents can make physical activity part of their children’s routines, breaks, and afterschool rewards, their attention, energy, and sleep will be improved.
They might do a workout with the child for 20 minutes before school starts, go for a short walk, or do jumping jacks during breaks. And getting outside to kick a ball, go for a swim, or otherwise get the heart rate up in the sunshine will be the most important thing parents do for their children after protecting their sleep.
Know your child
Remember parents are the experts on their children. School is the setting in which children are both cultivating their strengths and facing challenges. Ask the parents what has been most challenging for their children about school and what was most cherished about it.
Parents should get creative to cultivate their children’s strengths. If a child adores art, it will be so important to try to provide that experience during this school year. There might be other virtual resources (virtual museum tours, YouTube art lessons), a local teacher who can offer socially distant lessons, or even another student who might be able to safely share a teacher – getting a creative and social outlet together.
Are there special teachers that the children are missing? Maybe there is a way to send them emails or have some virtual time with them each week.
If a child struggles with the classroom but excells on the soccer pitch, it will be critical to find a physically distant way for the child to develop that strength, whether with a small, informal practice or a new physical undertaking.
Likewise, parents may need to look elsewhere to help their children manage important challenges. Whether a child is learning how to face anxiety or improve social skills, virtual school might seem like a relief as it takes the pressure off. Help parents consider alternate ways that their children could continue to work on these developmental projects while school is virtual, so they don’t lose ground developmentally.
If parents can set reasonable goals, be patient, and focus on the daily routines, and consider the child’s individual developmental strengths and challenges, they may be better able to manage this challenging year. They may even find improved connection, patience, and perspective for both themselves and their children.
Dr. Swick is physician in chief at Ohana, Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health, Community Hospital of the Monterey (Calif.) Peninsula. Dr. Jellinek is professor emeritus of psychiatry and pediatrics, Harvard Medical School, Boston. Neither Dr. Swick nor Dr. Jellinek had any relevant financial disclosures. Email them at [email protected].
The school year has begun, but for most families it is a school year without precedent. Parents have to monitor and support their children through school days that are partially or completely virtual, juggling sudden class transitions, troubleshooting technology, and trying to manage lessons and assignments. Most related activities such as sports and orchestra are cancelled. Parents themselves are anxious about completing their work, if they have jobs at all. On top of this, all of us have faced months of challenge and disruption with virtually no relief, with regard to seeing friends, traveling, or going out to dinner or a movie. For your patients with ADHD, the challenges of this school year will be even more difficult. Offering parents some guidance about how to approach and manage these challenges can support their adaptation and lessen the chances of compounded problems by the time in-person school resumes.
Children with ADHD, particularly those in elementary school, are managing symptoms of difficulty shifting their attention, sustaining focus on less-engaging material, and motor hyperactivity. They often have difficulty with organization and planning, working memory, and impulse control. Even with effective medication management, they typically are dependent on external cues and support to manage the demands of school. They benefit from attentive teachers who can redirect their attention, offer serial prompts before transitions, and provide patient support, reassurance, and confidence when they grow frustrated. And it often is easier for teachers to do this than for parents, as they have years of experience and training, and the support of their professionals in the school setting. And of course they are less likely to personalize these challenges than are parents, who are likely to feel worried, guilty, or discouraged by the child’s persistent difficulties with attention. Parents who are stressed or who may be managing difficulties with attention themselves – as ADHD is one of the more heritable psychiatric disorders – will be vulnerable to feeling frustration and losing their temper.
Suggest to the parents of your patients with ADHD that there will be frustrations and challenges as they manage the learning curve of virtual school with their children. Increasing the dose of an effective stimulant may be tempting, but there are a few strategies that may better help the children adapt to a virtual classroom without too much distress.
Promote good sleep patterns
Adequate, restful sleep is critical to our physical and psychological health and to healthy development. Children with ADHD are prone to sleep difficulties, and stimulants may exacerbate these.
So, it is critical that parents prioritize setting and maintaining healthy routines around sleep. All screens should power down at least 1 hour before lights out, and parents can help their children know when to accept “good enough” homework, so they also may get good enough sleep.
Daily physical activity helps enormously with restful sleep. A warm bath or shower and quiet reading (not homework!) can help wired kids unwind and be truly ready for lights out. Bedtime may start to slide later as life’s routines are disrupted with work and school happening at home, but it is important to maintain a consistent bedtime that will allow for 8-10 hours of sleep.
Create routines around the “school day”
Good schools involve a predictable rhythm and a lot of caring adults engaging with children. They have very consistent routines at the start of each day, and families can create their own to offer structure and cues to their children.
Start the day with a consistent wake up time and routine plus a healthy breakfast. Take advantage of the extra time that no commute to school or bus ride allow, whether by supporting more sleep, cooking a hot breakfast together, or by letting the children engage in a beloved activity, such as listening to music, reading a comic book, or working on a craft before the computer goes on.
The routine should be centered on the rhythm of the school, and realistic for parents. It matters most that it is consistent, incorporates nutritious food and exercise, and is pleasant and even fun.
Set the stage
Teachers will often put their students with ADHD in the front of the class, so they can offer prompts and so the students are less distracted by peers. Consider where in the home is a good spot for the children, one that minimizes distractions and where a parent is near enough to support and monitor them.
Parents might want to avoid rooms with a lot of toys or games that may tempt children, and children will need to be apart from (noisy) siblings. If they forget to mute themselves or are tempted to open another window on their computer, it is helpful for a parent to be near enough to be unobtrusively following along. Parents will hear the sounds of trouble and be able to help if their children get lost in an assignment or are otherwise off-track.
Create reasonable expectations and positive rewards
Reassure parents that this adjustment is going to be hard for all children and families. Now is not the season for perfectionism or focusing too intensely on mastering a challenging subject.
Reasonable goals for the first month might be for the child to get some enjoyment from school and to get better at specific tasks (being on time, managing the technology, asking for help when needed).
Parents may even set this goal with their children: “What do you want to be better at by the end of the first month?” If children with ADHD improve at managing the distractions of a virtual class, they will have accomplished a great deal cognitively. It will be hard work for them.
So parents should think about what reward can come at the end of each school day, whether a walk outside together, a game of Uno, or even an afterschool treat together, so children get a sense of success for even incremental adaptation.
Build in breaks from the screen
Spending much more than an hour in a virtual interaction is taxing even for adult attention spans. Parents should feel empowered to speak with their children’s teachers to find ways to build in regular 10- to 15-minute breaks during which their children can have a snack, take a bathroom break, or get their wiggles out.
Ensure there is some physical activity
Recess is usually the most important class of the day in elementary school, and especially for children with ADHD. If parents can make physical activity part of their children’s routines, breaks, and afterschool rewards, their attention, energy, and sleep will be improved.
They might do a workout with the child for 20 minutes before school starts, go for a short walk, or do jumping jacks during breaks. And getting outside to kick a ball, go for a swim, or otherwise get the heart rate up in the sunshine will be the most important thing parents do for their children after protecting their sleep.
Know your child
Remember parents are the experts on their children. School is the setting in which children are both cultivating their strengths and facing challenges. Ask the parents what has been most challenging for their children about school and what was most cherished about it.
Parents should get creative to cultivate their children’s strengths. If a child adores art, it will be so important to try to provide that experience during this school year. There might be other virtual resources (virtual museum tours, YouTube art lessons), a local teacher who can offer socially distant lessons, or even another student who might be able to safely share a teacher – getting a creative and social outlet together.
Are there special teachers that the children are missing? Maybe there is a way to send them emails or have some virtual time with them each week.
If a child struggles with the classroom but excells on the soccer pitch, it will be critical to find a physically distant way for the child to develop that strength, whether with a small, informal practice or a new physical undertaking.
Likewise, parents may need to look elsewhere to help their children manage important challenges. Whether a child is learning how to face anxiety or improve social skills, virtual school might seem like a relief as it takes the pressure off. Help parents consider alternate ways that their children could continue to work on these developmental projects while school is virtual, so they don’t lose ground developmentally.
If parents can set reasonable goals, be patient, and focus on the daily routines, and consider the child’s individual developmental strengths and challenges, they may be better able to manage this challenging year. They may even find improved connection, patience, and perspective for both themselves and their children.
Dr. Swick is physician in chief at Ohana, Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health, Community Hospital of the Monterey (Calif.) Peninsula. Dr. Jellinek is professor emeritus of psychiatry and pediatrics, Harvard Medical School, Boston. Neither Dr. Swick nor Dr. Jellinek had any relevant financial disclosures. Email them at [email protected].